Patti German Counseling



About Me

Individual Therapy
Couples Therapy
Family Therapy
Group Therapy


Patti Kaleck German, M.Ed., LMFT
146 Central Park West 1D
New York, NY 10023
(212) 582-6056
(917) 923-1038


When to seek help

  Affair or betrayal
  Lack of mutual sexual interest
  No special "dates" or time together
  Little interest in your partner's life


Couple's Therapy

My specialized skills in Couples Counseling are designed not only to help my patients establish a healthy couple relationship.

Through building effective communication, problem solving and conflict resolution skills, they learn how to enhance the relationship and add fresh meaning to being a couple. Sometimes, the focal point of the therapy is to provide permission to end the relationship. My work focuses on enhancing communication, deepening intimacy, understanding self-esteem, looking at sexual problems, delving into parenting and adoption questions, investigating pre-marital and dating concerns, opening up conflict resolution difficulties, dealing with life cycle issues, and, when appropriate or unavoidable, preparing for separation and adjusting to divorce.

Couples therapy focuses on the problems existing in the relationship between two people. It is important to note, however, that these relationship problems always involve “individual” symptoms and troubles, as well as the “relationship” conflicts. Discordant issues are readily identified and together we look at the essential changes that are needed for the relationship to progress. Using the systems approach, we explore together the influence and impact of each family of origin and the individual’s psychodynamics to discover where change can happen. I help couples learn how to communicate more effectively, listen more closely, validate each other, twin together, and be empathically attuned to one another. Couples learn to appreciate the importance of not competing with one another, to pinpoint common life goals and to share responsibilities within their relationship.

This process is very similar to individual psychotherapy, often it is more like mediation, and sometimes it is educational. Yet, it is the combination of these three constituents that makes it effective.

In my role as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I work with dating, engaged, living-together, married and divorced traditional, gay and lesbian couples.